Showing posts with label Mentoring. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Mentoring. Show all posts

Monday, January 11, 2016

Mentoring reflection

Time for some deep reflection on my mentoring...

Before I head into my mentoring sessions for 2016 I want to reflect deeply on the 2016 journey. Hazel has framed some wonderful questions for me to reflect on, so I will start there.   I will move on to a framework I saw in a Dr Libby write up, and will conclude with some goals for myself heading into the new year. 

Hazel's questions:

What has surprised you?
I guess the biggest surprise for me this year has been the growth in my mentoring 'comfortableness'.  I have had a large number of mentees this year and I am in awe of the journey we have all made. Without a doubt virtual mentoring has enabled us all to get to a place of increased capacity.  Relationship building has been crucial to the journey.  With regular mentoring sessions it has been possible to develop trusting relationship where we have been comfortable to journey into, at times challenging, at times difficult and at times unknown territory.  I have been most surprised by the development of my listening skills, listening as much for what is unsaid as what is said.  Organisational capacity has also surprised me this year.  We have, in many cases, developed clever systems of notetaking and recording an action from a current session, which we report on prior to the next session. I am surprised at my confidence in supporting action plans.

What has challenged you?
I have been challenged by time.  I am often reading through notes immediately prior to a session, when I am sure I would gain a lot more if I read them a day earlier and mulled them over before the next session.  I have also been remiss with re-reading notes from a current session before I close the document for that session.  This is definitely a goal I want to work on for this year. I continue to be challenged by having the 'right' questions or provocation at my finger tips.  I have developed a folder of resources to have at hand to further support me.


How do you feel as a mentor now?
Early in 2015 I had a lot of doubts.  I lacked confidence in my ability to be the 'right' mentor for my mentees.  I lacked trust in myself to work the best mix of support, motivation, challenge. I had also not spent enough time on the modules to support me in my journey... Well so much has changed.  2015 has seen significant growth in my confidence, my awareness, and my enjoyment.  I am absolutely loving being a mentor.  I think it is one of the most powerful things anyone can be and have.  I know, without a doubt, that without a mentor, I would not be anywhere near where I am today.  (Which triggers another blogpost - who has mentored me?)

What does this tell you about yourself as a learner?
I love challenge, I am very determined, very reflective, empathetic and genuinely want to be able to support educators to see their strengths and work through their challenges and not only survive but shine. I deeply value the role of my mentor and continually strive to emulate this experience.

How can we support each other more as learners (mentors) and through the UChoose online community of practice?
For me - it is essential that I communicate with other mentors. The strength gained from conversations and interactions with mentors, face to face at hui, or virtual through our modules and webinars has been immense.  I have had the privilege of sharing some of the success of mentoring journeys… we could be sharing more… I should be sharing more… I will share a story on the VPLD site TODAY!!!!!!

Thursday, September 3, 2015

"When a flower doesn't bloom, you fix the environment in which it grows, not the flower." Part 2

Firstly, a HUGE thank you to Claire and Jo for commenting on my post.  


And Claire thanks so much for inspiring a follow up post. Claire you have really challenged me, inspired me and made me reflect deeply on this metaphor.  

I am sharing the comments in here to add context to part 2!


  1. Love, love, LOVE this Anne! Your questions have got me thinking as well... We have taken Sir Ken's quote "creating a climate of possibilty" (with his permission) for our vision. This metaphor you share really resonates to me... I will have to use this one with the team! Thanks!
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    1. Hiya Claire,
      Thanks so much for the comment. I have spent time this weekend thinking through this quote! It really resonates in so many ways! At the end of the day today I was planting my sweet peas in pots around an arch way I want them to grow around. I thought lots about the environment... and I look forward to many sweet fragrant blooms... I also put in a lot of support, in the form of potting mix full of nutrients, watered them in well and added structures to support their growth... the more I think about the quote the more it intrigues me... Looking forward to unpacking it further and would love to see what you come up with as well.
      I love your "creating a climate of possibility"... and I hope I have done this for my sweet peas! Now to do so for my 'flowers' this week...
      Thanks
      Anne K
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    2. I guess my only question is - do your sweet peas (my favourite/ childhood blooms) have a desire/ need to grow around that arch... How much of your plan is plant led? ;)
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    3. Oooh Claire, what a great question! And by the way, I am loving the conversation and challenge...
      https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sweet_pea
      So, I guess a sweet pea's desire is to scramble up support, and bloom...
      "They are grown up canes, with the new shoots being regularly pinched out to promote a bushy habit and higher flower yields." To align this with learning, what do we 'pinch out' regularly?
      "the flowers appearing in midsummer and continuing for many weeks if regularly deadheaded." When do we dead head?
      "They are grown up canes", we provide the support we know they need....
      I love the fragrance and the colours. This year, unusually for me, I have gone with black, white and white with a black fringe for the colours of my sweet peas. I only hope their fragrance is strong because I grow them for their fragrance as much as their looks.
      "The plant led' part of my plan is for them to flourish in an environment that meets their needs....
      I feel a second blog post coming on....
      AK :-)
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    4. Just saying.... I Love that even more - "...scramble up support and bloom!"

      I am really looking forward to that next post as I am really enjoying the possibilities that come from this metaphor!

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  2. Great quote - we need to remember this every single day!
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    1. Hi Jo,
      Thanks for the comment! Indeed we do need to remember this everyday. Just as each plant or flower needs it's own unique 'environment' to flourish, so do our learners. From the mix, to companion planting, to weeding, pruning, watering.... there are many great analogies here to explore.... As winter end, and spring begins, our learners, just like our flowers, move into a new season, with new possibilities, new sprouts and shoots, and colours...
      Thanks
      Anne K
Today as I was looking at my sweet peas, I saw that the environment wasn't what they needed.  They looked slightly windswept and flattened.  I used scraps of spouting guard to provide support for them to cling, extend and grow.  I giggled as I reflected on the lectures I sat through listening to Vygotsky's Zone of Proximal Development.  
If we are thinking of my sweet peas as learners, the ZPD is the support I give them, the bridge to the structure to allow them to climb freely unaided.  

How do we do this for our learners?

How do we provide the support without doing it for them?

How do we encourage them to take risks, fail, learn from failures and continue to try?

Will the sweet peas cling to the support?

Will they withstand the wind and rain as they scramble up and bloom?

I just loved Claire's challenge - I guess my only question is - do your sweet peas (my favourite/ childhood blooms) have a desire/ need to grow around that arch... How much of your plan is plant led? ;)

What is the desire of the plant?  What is their goal, aim?  And am I supporting that?

I continue to think of 'fixing the environment'... My sweet peas are withstanding four seasons in a week at the moment.  What inner resilience do our learners need to withstand chaos, uncertainty and challenge?  What of the learners who do not have this inner resilience?

Saturday, February 28, 2015

Coaching Digital Learning - Cultivating a Culture of Change

Woohoo - my first MOOC - Coaching Digital Learning - Cultivating a Culture of Change MOOC-Ed, to enhance your digital learning content knowledge and further develop coaching strategies.

What a shock I got tonight to realise that I had enrolled for this course and it started 5 days ago - so I'm on a bit of a catch up!

I am enjoying reading about seven Partnership principles of: equality, choice, voice, reflection, dialogue, praxis and reciprocity.

The actions of good coaches are described as:
  • enrolling teachers in coaching as a part of their professional development;
  • identify teaching goals;
  • listen;
  • ask questions;
  • explain teaching beliefs;
  • provide feedback;
  • partner for success;
October 2011 | Volume 69 | Number 2 Coaching: The New Leadership Skill Pages 18-22 What Good Coaches Do - Jim Knight

"As Senge has written, effective coaching is not about the answers; it's about the questions" (Senge et al., 1999).

"Mentees are often looking for answers, and coaches are primed to oblige. But offering answers to every question can lead to a dysfunctional dance that short-circuits higher-level thinking."

Both of these quotes support my inquiry question fully. I really am charged with listening, and questioning to support others to find the answers, move beyond the obvious! 

Questions to Ask:
  • Ask questions about essential issues and behavior.
  • Ask precise and incisive questions.
  • Ask questions that generate specific and relevant information.
  • Ask questions that connect the past, present, and future.
  • Ask questions that explore values.
  • Occasionally, ask for permission.
  • Avoid asking why.
It's About the Questions Ronald R. Bearwald

I am thoroughly enjoying the start I have made and look forward to more great learning tomorrow!

Thursday, January 29, 2015

DVM wananga 2015

Whangia ka tupu, ka puawai

Introduction from Dave - tandem jump analogy
Committing to moving out of what we both know - an alliance - a challenging situation
Incredible commitment to the growth and development of people and learning
  • My experience as the talker
  • My experience as the listener
  • The Consequences/outcomes of the conversations
Building the skill base...
Mentoring, mentees, teachers mentoring learners, learners mentoring each other...
How can we make this a reality for all learners?

'Being with' in a way that supports and catalyses is our way as a mentor!

In 'letting go' there is finding...
BEING -
What do I want to be?
How do I want to be?
Mindfulness is about noticing what we are being...

Being able to do something without knowing what the consequences will be... but trusting that it is the right thing to do!

Backing myself!

Tools of mentorship - the inner qualities we have developed shape the way we use our tools. 

At times we are restoring before we re-create, or create... At times we just BE WITH another...

Aspects of mentorship:

Self-focused:
  • Managing one's own vulnerability;
  • Letting go of the need for validation;
  • Knowing one's truth; 
  • Maintaining a light heart even when feeling sad;
  • Being a mentor to self
Other-focused:
  • Being gracious with the differently informed;
  • Being still and present with another;
  • Speaking one's truth;
  • Not having full access to or knowledge of the consequences of one's work.
  • Understanding boundaries and mandates;
  • Letting go of the responsibility for outcomes.
Reflection is needed on each of these points - and I will blog on each separately in coming day....

Models of mentoring

Tandem jump - highly interactive, co-mentoring approach, mentor is very present,


Crucible - pipette, catalyst  mentee brings 'stuff, mentee holds the conversation and brings something to it and causes it to change.. adding a few drops and causing something to come to life!


Developmental alliance - each bring own skill, overlap enables influence of one to another - VERY strongly peer alliance - similar rank.


GE model - holding the tension between 'goals' and 'emergence'.


Bridge model - link between today and tomorrow - bridge between the two - now and tomorrow - building the bridge from both ends.

R2I model - moving from reality to inspiration  

ROPRAHA - Explore reality, look at options, preference, resources, action, help, accountability.  (not necessarily linear...)

MMC - Medicine man, chief - (working with a cluster)
WOW - what a powerful day with an incredible team of people....







Sunday, November 16, 2014

Mentoring - what a journey

(Cross Posting from VPLD - http://virtualicteltpd.ning.com/profiles/blogs/2014-what-a-journey)

Thinking back to late January and the Developing Virtual Mentor (DVM) hui in Christchurch seems such a long time ago.  What an incredible journey it has been.  
My previous experience as a DP, my Masters in Educational Leadership, and my time leading has been a base for development, and mentoring is adding a new layer, a new challenge, a new dimension.  
Only as I began to delve into the DVM programme was I aware of the potential of mentoring in any relationship. My world has really opened up as I have been privileged to grow through being mentored and through mentoring. I must emphasise the value of the mentoring I have received.  It has moved me beyond what I thought I was capable of, has challenged, supported and enriched me and I am so much greater for the experience. I am in awe of the resourcing and support that is in this VPLD programme and I am indebted to all who have supported me, shown confidence in me, and been there for me.  
Developing my skills of mentoring have been an integral part of my development in my VPLD role, my other professional roles and also in my personal life.  I remember Manu coining the phrase 'situational analyst' at our January hui, and this term has been somewhat of a mantra for me.  We weave gently in and out of roles, challenges; times of quiet and noise, times of need and support, challenge and provocation; times of despair and hope; times of trial and celebration.  Being aware of the situation, analysing the situation and responding appropriately can take time; days, weeks, months, or can happen on the fly.  I want to acknowldege the extreme privilege of being part of a journey that is growing me in my resilience and responsiveness.
This year has been a roller coaster of emotions.  Being aware of my role, my journey, my privilege, has opened me to real personal growth.  From times of feeling completely inqdequate, feeling out of my depth, feeling supportive and involved, feeling a part of a transformative journey; all adding to the journey that is my development as a mentor.  
I want to offer a debt of gratitude to those I have had the pleasure of mentoring. Thank you for your time, honesty, commitment and patience. A journey I hope we are all richer for!


Saturday, January 25, 2014

VPLD mentoring hui reflections...


My reflection on my takeaways from this hui:
As our two days together drew to an end we were given the opportunity to draw our takeaways. This was a treat!  I found it incredibly easy to quickly sketch symbols reflective of my journey over the past two days.  During sharing of our images, I learnt so much more about me, and my journey as I explained the symbols.  Now, on the flight home I am revisiting and adding the stories to my symbols!
Clock - time to be, for me, and for me to be what I need to be, and can be for others;
Star - for all the MAGIC aha moments;
Kete - full of tools for the journey;
Bridge - for me to build and walk across when needed; for me to use to support others to cross divides;
Building blocks - to build up for self and others, for order in the chaos, for the fun of the build;
Flowers - for the growth of the journey, for me and for others;
Heart - for the aroho on this journey, for being in the heart of where I am, for my role, and for our team;
Precious gems - jewels, all the precious moments I want to hold dear to my heart;
Chain - the links, new links added and bonds strengthened;
Lightbulb - for the new ideas, the clarity or shedding light on established ideas, and light for the challenges ahead;
Roadblocks - the tools I have developed to know when to go around, go over, bulldoze or avoid, basically the power to reflect on when to avoid the pussyfoot approach, when to avoid the sledgehammer approach, and when to go directly to the heart of the matter!

I am committing to revisiting this sketch, to reflect on and add to this over my journey!  How could you use this idea with your learners to encourage capturing a journey?



Friday, January 24, 2014

Day two VPLD Hui


Day two began by reflecting on and revisiting aspects of day 1.  How often do we take the time to do this with our learners?  Can we do more of this?
We co-constructed an agenda and prioritised what we hoped to achieve!  Again I ask, how often do we truly involve our learners in the agenda for the day?
As we re-established the rapport, trust and respect of day one we journeyed into what we want to Know, Feel, Do and Be….
As we moved into exploring frameworks of mentoring I realised anew the power of digger deeper, taking time to go beyond the obvious.  
We looked at a range of frameworks and delved into possibilities.  
This has been an incredibly powerful journey and I eagerly anticipate the times when I can mentor, coach, support, guide, facilitate...

As a way of concluding the session we were able draw our takeaways from the session, with music playing quietly in the background... and this is the basis of a new blog post!